Oh the joy (and sometimes embarrassment) that comes with a toddler. We were out to lunch after church on Sunday when Jacob, leaned over the booth to a passing customer and announced, "Hey baby, I pee peed in the potty!" Best pick up line ever right?! Where does he get these things:)
Then, following an ENT appointment on Tuesday (where I am thankful to report his tubes are still in place and functioning properly) we ran by the office to visit with co-workers. On the way out his love of flipping switches suddenly turned on him as his fingers found the fire pull station by the elevator and suddenly lights were flashing, sirens wailing, and red alert heard throughout the hospital. Yes, on my floor, in my hospital, with many co-workers I had to say, no it's not a fire, just my son.
Love, love, love this boy and the never knowing what is coming next!
Thursday, May 24, 2012
Monday, May 14, 2012
Busy May
Adoption - Things are progressing rapidly to bring R & B home! Documents left for The Assistant Stork today. The dossier is complete minus homestudy. Homestudy is done but waiting on report. Once that is in hand I can send in the dossier, file the I600-A and get the USCIS portion moving. I received new pictures over the weekend which thrilled me to no end. Fundraising begins next week and will hopefully begin to replenish some of what has been going out so rapidly!
Jacob - This little guy is just a delight...a stubborn, loud delight with a bit of a mean streak:) You might liken him to a bully as he tries to do everything first and best. He gets so upset with himself when he can't do what he is attempting. He is a natural athlete and my only decision will be which sport to enroll him in when he is old enough. He has actual conversation now though some does need interpreting still. We have begun working on potty training on an infrequent basis. He has control and he has no effort going when he tries but that stubborn streak runs strong and many times he just will not try. His teachers absolutely adore him both at daycare and church which makes my leaving him a bit easier.
Joseph - What a busy month for this little boy. He has been playing soccer and is beginning to look like he is deliberately scoring. Most games he scores 2-3 goals with the one game exception when he burst into tears because he didn't score. He expects so much from himself.
Jacob - This little guy is just a delight...a stubborn, loud delight with a bit of a mean streak:) You might liken him to a bully as he tries to do everything first and best. He gets so upset with himself when he can't do what he is attempting. He is a natural athlete and my only decision will be which sport to enroll him in when he is old enough. He has actual conversation now though some does need interpreting still. We have begun working on potty training on an infrequent basis. He has control and he has no effort going when he tries but that stubborn streak runs strong and many times he just will not try. His teachers absolutely adore him both at daycare and church which makes my leaving him a bit easier.
Joseph - What a busy month for this little boy. He has been playing soccer and is beginning to look like he is deliberately scoring. Most games he scores 2-3 goals with the one game exception when he burst into tears because he didn't score. He expects so much from himself.
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| Good action shot from this past weekend |
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| Trophies followed this game!
Joseph graduated from pre-school this past week. I'm a pro at graduation and held it together except when a song played during a video with the words, "I can remember when, you fit in the palm of my hand." Most parents cried because they have this memory. I cried because I don't. Still not certain Joseph knew what graduation was all about, but he sure looked handsome and all grown up!
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Sunday, April 29, 2012
It's Official!
It is so absolutely incredible to watch God at work and all it took was an ounce of faith and the courage to say yes to his calling. I am completely blown away by the response from friends and family at my decision to adopt again. I have received donations from 4 states, 9 counties, and countless friends so far and am pleased to say that the countdown to completely fund this adoption is now at 5816 people willing to make that $5.00 donation. Thank you!
In the meantime, I have a fundraiser planned at Chick-fil-A on May 24th and yard sale for June 23rd. I receive 20% of the proceeds at Chick-fil-A so if you are in the Smyrna area on May 24th come hungry and join the celebration. All you need is the attached coupon in hand or on your phone. The offer is good for dining in or drive through.
In the meantime, I have a fundraiser planned at Chick-fil-A on May 24th and yard sale for June 23rd. I receive 20% of the proceeds at Chick-fil-A so if you are in the Smyrna area on May 24th come hungry and join the celebration. All you need is the attached coupon in hand or on your phone. The offer is good for dining in or drive through.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
I Have (Had) a Dream
In 1962 Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. delivered his famous speech where he stated, “I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” That dream is alive and fully recognized in the Shinkle household, though far from reality throughout this world. Dr. King fought for his four children and I now have the opportunity, no privilege, to make four of my seven among those who will certainly face the challenges of racism throughout their lives.
In November 2009 I began this journey to change the destiny of my family. The adoption of Joseph and Jacob has no doubt transformed future generations and touched those among us now. I had the luxury of taking my time through the first adoption through many circumstances seemingly within and beyond my control. This allowed for fundraiser after fundraiser and the opportunity to pay one expense before the next came due. This time however, time itself may not be on my side.
Coincidence?
I am not one to believe in coincidence but can plainly see the plan laid before me by a God who is able to overcome every challenge now before me. We are commanded in scripture to care for the widows and orphans, with each individual equipped to do that in his or her unique way. For some this means to allow the 147 million orphans to be another’s problem, some are called to adopt, and others to financially and prayerfully support those who do adopt. Jesus himself ordained adoption by allowing us to be called his sons and daughters.
I have a radical challenge to place before those who would believe with me and I only need 6000 people to say yes. Um, yes, I did say 6,000! If 6000 people will donate $5.00, less than the cost of a one-time lunch, this adoption will be almost fully funded and I can bring two more children out of poverty and disease. I can tuck them in bed at night, celebrate holidays and birthdays with them, and provide needed medical care. I can be the one lucky enough to teach them about their Heavenly Father while providing the opportunity to grow to be successful adults.
Now, here is the crazy part. I can be paper ready in about 3 months, so this challenge comes with a deadline. Just 12 weeks, $30,000, and 2 lives saved. Many will ask, “What’s in it for me?” and I respond, the opportunity to witness a living God in action as he makes the impossible possible. Will you please join me now in supporting the international adoption of these two precious, precious girls and help them reach their forever family.
In November 2009 I began this journey to change the destiny of my family. The adoption of Joseph and Jacob has no doubt transformed future generations and touched those among us now. I had the luxury of taking my time through the first adoption through many circumstances seemingly within and beyond my control. This allowed for fundraiser after fundraiser and the opportunity to pay one expense before the next came due. This time however, time itself may not be on my side.
Coincidence?
- March 18, 2012 I had a dream
- There were twin girls born in this dream
- I had a split second decision to make
- April 2010 I first saw Jacob. April 2012 I was scrolling through pictures of waiting children and my heart literally leapt as I saw twin girls destined to be my daughters
- These girls remind me of Joseph and Jacob in many of their mannerisms
- There is a perceived urgency in moving forward to get them home
- One of these girls will retain her first name in America. The other (like Jacob) will likely get a new first name
I am not one to believe in coincidence but can plainly see the plan laid before me by a God who is able to overcome every challenge now before me. We are commanded in scripture to care for the widows and orphans, with each individual equipped to do that in his or her unique way. For some this means to allow the 147 million orphans to be another’s problem, some are called to adopt, and others to financially and prayerfully support those who do adopt. Jesus himself ordained adoption by allowing us to be called his sons and daughters.
I have a radical challenge to place before those who would believe with me and I only need 6000 people to say yes. Um, yes, I did say 6,000! If 6000 people will donate $5.00, less than the cost of a one-time lunch, this adoption will be almost fully funded and I can bring two more children out of poverty and disease. I can tuck them in bed at night, celebrate holidays and birthdays with them, and provide needed medical care. I can be the one lucky enough to teach them about their Heavenly Father while providing the opportunity to grow to be successful adults.
Now, here is the crazy part. I can be paper ready in about 3 months, so this challenge comes with a deadline. Just 12 weeks, $30,000, and 2 lives saved. Many will ask, “What’s in it for me?” and I respond, the opportunity to witness a living God in action as he makes the impossible possible. Will you please join me now in supporting the international adoption of these two precious, precious girls and help them reach their forever family.
Thank you and God Bless,
Debbie, Kathy, Amy, David, Joseph, Jacob, R, and B
Monday, March 19, 2012
Big decisions
My soul is restless as I find myself back in a familiar place. Adoption changes your life forever. Adoption gets in your blood. Seeing lives change so drastically is wonderfully amazing. It took me 48 years to say yes to God's calling in my life. Most days I feel I barely get it right. As a single parent it is tough to be all things at all times. Yet since arriving home last January with Joseph and Jacob...actually, since beginning the adoption journey months earlier...I felt this would not be the last time I walked this pathway. As time has gone on I found myself comfortable. I am blessed beyond words with two boys who are healthy and happy, who seem adjusted most of the time, whom I put to bed at 730 and don't hear from until 630 or 7 the next morning. Two boys who are used to (and love) the daycare experience and seem to understand that I must work to provide all that we have. God doesn't like comfortable.
I had a dream two nights ago. In this dream I was handed a baby girl and had the split second decision to save her life or let her die. I had just given birth to this child (definitely metaphoric) and she was not breathing and had a look on her face of death. Of course, I chose life and began mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. Moments later there was another child on the way...a daughter I knew. Sunday morning the dream was so vivid and I began to ponder it's meaning. It took no time to understand that I do have this choice. I can choose to give another child life (perhaps two) or I can remain comfortable.
Why me God? Why is it that the same people are called repeatedly to this journey? Why can't the others simply do their part and the orphan crisis would cease to exist? I choose to live in the perfect center of God's will for me and for some crazy reason it appears I could be expanding my family again. Joseph recently asked for a little sister and I laughed and told him there was nothing else little coming in the house. I think God has something else in mind. I believe he has my daughter already chosen!!
Again, I ask why. I have my nice little house just as I want it, with hardwood floors installed in memory of my mother after her passing. I will need a bigger house. I have a car that seats four comfortably with room for two car seats only. I will need a bigger car. I have one about to start school and was rejoicing at the "pay raise" from no more daycare expense for him. Hmmm, could it be that this money will help pay the adoption expenses. Certainly I wouldn't feel the pain of another child in daycare. I should receive an inheritance from my Grandfather's estate. He passed away the end of January. What a legacy to use this for the adoption of his great granddaughter. I will most likely be committing professional suicide with another adoption. I am criticized regularly for what others perceive as lack of dedication to my job because of the time required to care for Joseph and Jacob if they get sick. Yet I was reminded in prayer last week that Christ promised we would be persecuted for choosing to follow him, so why should I expect anything different. I cannot even fathom fund raising with these two in tow. I have sold most of the baby items and will have to begin anew.
I ask for your prayers as I seek to follow HIS will for my life. I struggle knowing how old I will be when these children graduate from college. Joseph has begun to point out his skin color and today asked why mine was different. That doesn't bother me or him now, but will it him in a few years?
In a short update, the boys are doing great. In comparison to last year their health is wonderful. Spring has sprung early and the allergies have kicked in but we can live comfortably with that. Joseph continues to love "school" and is looking forward to his 5th birthday. He starts soccer next week. I've never done soccer before so this should be interesting. Jacob is two! Not much more to say than that he meets every definition of terrible two. Yet at the same time he can be so gentle and loving...well with his baby niece Emmalynn anyway. Hmmm again...perhaps God warming him up to the idea of a little sister! He is now wearing the same size clothes that Joseph wore when he first came to America. Amazing...simply amazing.
I had a dream two nights ago. In this dream I was handed a baby girl and had the split second decision to save her life or let her die. I had just given birth to this child (definitely metaphoric) and she was not breathing and had a look on her face of death. Of course, I chose life and began mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. Moments later there was another child on the way...a daughter I knew. Sunday morning the dream was so vivid and I began to ponder it's meaning. It took no time to understand that I do have this choice. I can choose to give another child life (perhaps two) or I can remain comfortable.
Why me God? Why is it that the same people are called repeatedly to this journey? Why can't the others simply do their part and the orphan crisis would cease to exist? I choose to live in the perfect center of God's will for me and for some crazy reason it appears I could be expanding my family again. Joseph recently asked for a little sister and I laughed and told him there was nothing else little coming in the house. I think God has something else in mind. I believe he has my daughter already chosen!!
Again, I ask why. I have my nice little house just as I want it, with hardwood floors installed in memory of my mother after her passing. I will need a bigger house. I have a car that seats four comfortably with room for two car seats only. I will need a bigger car. I have one about to start school and was rejoicing at the "pay raise" from no more daycare expense for him. Hmmm, could it be that this money will help pay the adoption expenses. Certainly I wouldn't feel the pain of another child in daycare. I should receive an inheritance from my Grandfather's estate. He passed away the end of January. What a legacy to use this for the adoption of his great granddaughter. I will most likely be committing professional suicide with another adoption. I am criticized regularly for what others perceive as lack of dedication to my job because of the time required to care for Joseph and Jacob if they get sick. Yet I was reminded in prayer last week that Christ promised we would be persecuted for choosing to follow him, so why should I expect anything different. I cannot even fathom fund raising with these two in tow. I have sold most of the baby items and will have to begin anew.
I ask for your prayers as I seek to follow HIS will for my life. I struggle knowing how old I will be when these children graduate from college. Joseph has begun to point out his skin color and today asked why mine was different. That doesn't bother me or him now, but will it him in a few years?
In a short update, the boys are doing great. In comparison to last year their health is wonderful. Spring has sprung early and the allergies have kicked in but we can live comfortably with that. Joseph continues to love "school" and is looking forward to his 5th birthday. He starts soccer next week. I've never done soccer before so this should be interesting. Jacob is two! Not much more to say than that he meets every definition of terrible two. Yet at the same time he can be so gentle and loving...well with his baby niece Emmalynn anyway. Hmmm again...perhaps God warming him up to the idea of a little sister! He is now wearing the same size clothes that Joseph wore when he first came to America. Amazing...simply amazing.
Monday, January 16, 2012
A walk down memory lane
As a result of this Mama not paying attention to daycare closure due to the holiday I am spending an unexpected Monday home with the boys. Yeah for a Monday off from work, right! Well, in trying to pass the morning I pulled up some pictures and videos of the Ethiopia Court and Embassy visits and quickly had a lap full of boys. We were laughing at the antics, at how they have grown, and trying desperately to figure out what Joseph was saying. He kept sadly shaking his head and saying "I don't remember" that is until I opened the video of them with their birth Mom. There was breathtaking silence and then Joseph grabbed me and in a pleading voice said "No Mama, I want to go home!" and then "where's Mama" as he searched the video for a glimpse of me. It took me a moment to realize he meant home as in here home. There was something about that video that transported him back to that orphanage in Ethiopia. I was trying to reassure him when Jacob's attention shifted from a movie he was watching to the video and suddenly he was sobbing hysterically and clinging to me. Needless to say the video ended quickly and I spent the next hour with Jacob unwilling to get out of my lap in obvious distress and Joseph following my every footstep.
What just happened? Obviously not what I intended. I believe these two were terrified, horrified in fact that their lives were fixing to change again. So how on earth do I figure out this balance of keeping their heritage strong and sharing their adoption story, yet protecting their hearts. She was a huge player in their lives and one who deserves to be remembered and honored. Yet I feel this is my cue to leave this portion of their lives untouched until they ask. Everything I ever read said to answer questions as they came. So does that mean to never mention their Ehmyay until they do? Until now I felt it was good for them to see the pictures periodically. In the beginning in fact there seemed to be something quite soothing to Joseph about doing so. Perhaps it is the length of time that has now passed. This one I just do not know. What I do know is it feels amazing that these two call me Mama and seek comfort in my arms. I will certainly be praying through this one.
What just happened? Obviously not what I intended. I believe these two were terrified, horrified in fact that their lives were fixing to change again. So how on earth do I figure out this balance of keeping their heritage strong and sharing their adoption story, yet protecting their hearts. She was a huge player in their lives and one who deserves to be remembered and honored. Yet I feel this is my cue to leave this portion of their lives untouched until they ask. Everything I ever read said to answer questions as they came. So does that mean to never mention their Ehmyay until they do? Until now I felt it was good for them to see the pictures periodically. In the beginning in fact there seemed to be something quite soothing to Joseph about doing so. Perhaps it is the length of time that has now passed. This one I just do not know. What I do know is it feels amazing that these two call me Mama and seek comfort in my arms. I will certainly be praying through this one.
Saturday, January 14, 2012
Melkam Gena
Wow, holding to traditional Ethiopian holidays was harder than expected this year. Exhausted from all of the Christmas celebrations, Gotcha Day, and New Years I found it incredibly difficult to celebrate yet another Christmas. In about as nontraditional method as you can get, the boys and I spent most of the day at home...minus gifts. We talked about it being Christmas in Ethiopia and discussed some of the ways family and friends might be celebrating. With little interest from them, I didn't push the Ethiopia discussion. Jacob honestly doesn't remember, and Joseph...well, he just clams up every time I try to get him to talk. Maybe next year.
The highlight of our day was a quick bite at Wendy's and the very first hockey game! Kathy received tickets to the Nashville Predators vs Carolina Hurricanes game that conveniently coincided with this day. We had great seats and both boys thoroughly enjoyed the game. Sports and fights are right up their alley:) We made it about 2/3 of the way through and only left because I knew they needed to get to bed. Let's say Mama needed to get to bed so therefore they did! Melkam Gena!!
The highlight of our day was a quick bite at Wendy's and the very first hockey game! Kathy received tickets to the Nashville Predators vs Carolina Hurricanes game that conveniently coincided with this day. We had great seats and both boys thoroughly enjoyed the game. Sports and fights are right up their alley:) We made it about 2/3 of the way through and only left because I knew they needed to get to bed. Let's say Mama needed to get to bed so therefore they did! Melkam Gena!!
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